What is fetish? Well, let us look into a dictionary or an encyclopedia, to see how the word is defined. When reading the dictionary entries realize that fetish is the way some people see, fell, and perceive both reality and their own fantasy. It can be the way they perceive themselves. Fetish is a very intimate, inner, feature. So take the definitions as they should be taken: Just an attempt to describe the feature as briefly as possible. That means they do not say much. (hehe)
fetish n 1: an object (as an idol or image) believed to have supernatural or magical powers 2: an object of unreasoning devotion or concern <make a fetish of secrecy> [from Latin facticius "artificial"
Webster’s New Encyclopedic Dictionary
fetish
1 If someone has a fetish, they have an unusually strong liking or need for a
particular object or activity, as a way of getting sexual pleasure.
fetishism. Fetishism involves a person having a strong liking or need for a particular object or activity which gives them sexual pleasure and excitement.
Collins Cobuild English Dictionary
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fetishism
1. originally ....
2. econ. a) ...
3. med. sexual deviation where the object of sexual excitement is not a
real person, but something (fetish), that may be related to the person. Fetish
can be e.g. a part of clothing, shoes, underwear, certain smell.
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Small Czechoslovak Encyclopedia
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As you can see I love definitions. They say so much - and so little at the same time. They seem funny to me. Even if you read one hundred definitions from one hundred dictionaries or encyclopedias you would not know what a real fetish is like. Either you live with a fetish and you know what it is like; or you do not have any fetish and you cannot feel it fully.
I do not agree with all those scholarly persons, who define fetish as a "sexual deviation". When people say deviation, they often use the word the way that it is something bad, forbidden, or dirty. Why? Is it really wrong to be attracted to women who wear strong glasses? I do not think so. Some say it is a kind of paraphilia. (Paraphilia is defined as an attraction - also sexual attraction - towards handicapped people.) If the definition was true all the fetishists and paraphiliacs would be insane people.
I do think I am insane. I am not any deviant. I am not crazy. I am normal man with a kind of "extension". This extension, the fetish, enriches my sexual feeling and my spiritual life. While a " 100-per-cent normal" man gets turned on only by nice and slender young female body, which I like too, of course. I have the same feeling when I see a nice woman wearing strong glasses. The prettier she is and the stronger glasses she has the better feeling for me.
So, my fetish, glasses, is not the only object that arouses me. I love beautiful women of all races, all colors, all kinds, short, tall, slim, plump. I believe, that every woman has her beauty, we just have to try to discover it.
So, what is fetish?
For me, my fetish is an inseparable part of my life. It is my aesthetic opinion and a part of my sexual orientation. I like many women, but most of all I like women who wear glasses. Can it be that simple? Yes, it can. Yes it is.
Obsession
Let’s find a definition of "obsession" in a dictionary. It will not say much, but it will help.
My obsession with glasses is also a part of the fetish. I have tried to analyze the issue for many times. After the years I found out that the reason I like wearing glasses so much that I wear strong minus glasses over plus contacts is that glasses have always been an attribute of beauty. As I like women wearing glasses and as I do not perceive glasses as a solely female feature (i.e. they are not just a sexual attribute like breasts or beard) I also want to have this attribute.
Do not misunderstand me, please. I know that most people think that too strong glasses are not nice. I know they think strong glasses detract from the image. I understand the reasons, why people buy hi-index lenses, order anti-reflex coating, and choose small frames. They want to look nice; they want to look the way they think they should look like. There is a kind of "program" in human minds saying what is nice and what is ugly. Those aestetic rules depend on culture, age, epoch etc.
I read a very old article about clothing and style, where the author gave advice on how people should choose their clothes to look nice. He said that women should not wear glasses because glasses make them look ugly. According to the opinion of the man, woman with glasses was unacceptable. I think that women who had to wear glasses, because they could not see without them at all, and who read the article must have been totally depressed after they had read it. The man could not know, that in the second part of the 20th century glasses would become an important fashion accessory and a great business.
The style, the fashion, the aestetic criteria keeps changing. Look at Ruben’s paintings. Are those women pretty? Would you choose such a model for an advertisement to attract more customers? I do not think so. If you had the money you would hire Linda Evangelista, who definitely does not look like any of the Ruben’s models. The "normal" people just follow the fashion. They choose fashionable frames and fashionable lenses. It usually means that they buy lenses that are as thin as possible, and they have the anti-reflex coating made, so that the lenses became almost invisible.
There is rather different "program" in my mind. I feel as if I was preprogrammed to wear strong glasses. I do not feel well when I have thin lenses. I bought hi-index lenses in mid-eighties. They were much thinner than my old lenses. I wore them for just a short period of time because I did not feel well wearing them. The problem was not the frame. I liked the frame. The problem was the thickness of the lenses. The lenses were too thin for me. Later I had CR39 plastic lenses fitted in the frames. I took some effort to persuade the optician that I really want plastic lenses and that I really do not care for the "horrible" thickness. What was horrible for the optician was quite good for me.
Following the "program", my feelings, my own way, I always tried to wear as strong glasses as possible. Anytime my eyes were tested I let the doctor slid as strong lenses into the trial frames as possible. I even had to remember the most important lines of the eye-chart, because when the number of diopters exceeded my natural nearsightedness I could not see the line clearly and had to read the letters by heart. So, my new glasses used to be too strong for me and I had to get used to looking trough them. I always succeeded and in a few weeks I could see well. This way I managed to increase my nearsightedness by quite a number of diopters.
As the time went on I was not able to do it the way I did. The progression stopped when I was about 30. No more diopters for my eyes. The strongest prescription I reached was minus eleven diopters but I never got used to wearing those glasses completely. They remained too strong for reading.
I was sad, because I longed for myodiscs (or lenticular lenses). Then I realized nobody can have anything they want. Neither me.
I fulfilled my need to wear strong glasses in 1984 when I bought a pair of glasses with -18 diopter lenses. I could not see much through them so I could wear them only on special occasions. The frame was old-fashioned, the lenses were very thick and very strong. I knew I must not meet anybody who knew me when wearing them. That’s why I took long walks in distant part of my town (Prague and, after I had moved, Brno) with the glasses on my nose. It took some time to accustom and see just to be able to find the way and not to fall or hit anybody. I loved the walks, those were my precious moments spent in a blurry world. The only thing I was very sorry for was that I could to see how people looked at me. I knew I was seen, I knew people looked at my glasses, but I could not see them looking. This changed after I had bought my GOC. It happened soon after I had connected to Internet and found sites about glasses fetish.
Here I want to thank to my friend Spec4ever. His stories featured wearing GOC - glasses over contacts - the only way how to wear strong glasses and see clearly through them at the same time. I purchased my plus contacts and respective strong glasses as soon as I had found the courage to enter an optic shop to tell the optician my fabricated cover as an explanation why I wanted to buy the strange stuff. It worked very well. Thank you, Spec4ever, for your stories, thank you, Chris, for your wonderful Eye Scene website and thank you, Mrs. S.P., that you believed the fake story I told you and made me possible to wear my GOC.
Link:
The story: My First experience with Glasses over
contacts.